Lately it seems as though everything playing in theaters is a love story. As a girl, this excites me because I get to go watch what guys call, “a cheesy romance movie.” I always ask my boyfriend to go to the movies with me and he’ll usually reply, “I don’t want to sit through another boring movie that gives girls false expectations.” After he said that, it really got me thinking, “Does the media gives girls a false sense of what love is supposed to be?”
For a while, I really thought he was right. I changed my way of thinking and decided I was expecting too much from a guy: attention, love, romantic outings, you know…the whole “perfect love” kind of thing. I would roll my eyes at couples holding hands or showing any form of affection. I had become a cynic.
But then, I had an epiphany. I realized that he was wrong. Why should I have to lower my expectations from a guy? Am I not worth getting the best love possible? I know that every girl out there that is looking for a relationship or is currently in one deserves the best. Why? Because we only live once, and we might as well have a love so profound that it makes life worth living. Instead of being a pessimist, I resorted back to my old ways of thinking. I no longer rolled my eyes when I saw couples holding hands, but instead I smiled and felt happy that they valued one another. There is a quote from the movie The Notebook that describes love, “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.”
As far as my boyfriend saying that movies give women false expectations, I now disagree with him. My thoughts are different now. I believe that the media portrays love the way it should be: picture perfect.