Are you one of those women who stand outside a store window for hours wondering if the dress on the mannequin will be to the liking of your partner? Do you spend hours in the bathroom making sure that your hair is exactly the way your boyfriend wants it? Do you go out of your way to make sure your man is content and satisfied? At the end of the day do you feel like you do not know who you are anymore?
If you answered yes to any of these questions then you need to stop. As women, we are required to look a certain way and act a certain way by society, but do we really need to add our boyfriends or spouses to the list? Women need to make sure that every decision that is made is based solely on their own opinion. The only question a woman should be asking herself is whether or not she is happy with the decisions she has made.
In my last opinion piece, the questions about men and relationships were brought to my attention by several TAMIU female students. Most of the questions that were included in my opinion piece had to do with women not being able to find the right guy or the lack of communication between the sexes. However, as concerning as the questions were, I feel that women have the answers to their own situations.
During the Thanksgiving break, I did some research on the concerning issues and I came to the conclusion that maybe women do not need men as soon as they think they do. As feminist as the idea sounds, women depending on men can be a thing of the past. Men might be good as friends, lovers, and even fathers, but is that really what women want? Is finding the right guy the only goal a woman aspires to?
I feel that instead of women searching for their soul mate they should do some soul searching of their own. In order for women to find a suitable companion, women must first identify themselves as individuals. Most women focus more on the idea of having a companion than actually wanting one. Women need be sure that the person they are going to date is not just another pretty face, but someone who can appreciate a woman with her flaws as well as her attributes.
Men are wonderful creatures but sometimes women take the idea of romance too far. Women stress because their biological clocks are ticking, their hormones are going crazy, or they simply do not want to be alone. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a companion to share all that life has to offer, but most women are completely unsure of the man they are with. In most cases women choose men because of any reason other than love. In some cases women are in love but they never truly feel happy with the choices made.
I personally feel that women need to set finding a boyfriend aside and focus on their career and personal needs not wants. It is important for all women who do want a partner to be sure of the decisions they are making with relationships.
Every woman has the answer to her own question or problem. The first step to finding the answer is getting to know who you are as a woman. I have come across women who feel that they know perfectly who they are, but find themselves feeling suppressed because they cannot communicate with the boyfriend. In order for women to feel secure and confident to get out into the dating world, they must set goals and standards for themselves.
Just like men who set their limited standards to only date the women who are pretty, women too should have high standards. Women should not only date the cute guys, but date the men who can actually meet a women’s needs and not settling for anything less.
Once every woman believes that she is worth something more that just a one night stand, she will find the answers to all her problems. Every woman should go out into the world to discover herself and lead the life she was meant to live with the right companion if necessary. Women will see that once they know what they want, it will all come easily.